Putting Yourself In Someone Else’s Shoes

It’s a good thing to put yourself in someone else’s shoes. Sometimes you have no other choice. She can’t wear hers at all for another few weeks. The foot surgery March 20th ensures that. So I’m relearning tasks we used to share when we both worked and had kids at home.

  • Laundry
  • Grocery shopping
  • Cooking–up to a point

Since we both retired, we have devised a division of labor that works for us.  It’s more efficient that way. I do the driving, banking and financial management, vacuuming and home maintenance tasks. She does the bullet point items above. Yes, it sounds like typical male/female roles. That might seem a sexist thing–but only if we came to it from a gender defined choice and not one that works for us. Still, it’s informative and refreshing to revisit those choices when circumstances force it upon us.

We are grateful and appreciative of one another’s respective contributions. It’s a more powerful experience when we must wear the other’s shoes. It could happen that I have some incapacity for a time. It has happened. She steps in for me as I am stepping in for her. If we didn’t, we wouldn’t be looking forward to a 40th anniversary next year.

It’s a humorous topic on sitcoms (we don’t watch them but still see promos for them) and in movies–men can’t cook, clean, etc. Women can’t work on cars or do home repairs. It’s not really funny–it’s stupid. Do single men–think college students, etc., have mothers or girlfriends to do their laundry and eat out all the time? No, they don’t. If women can lead corporations and be CPAs, they can handle a family budget.

We have our roles by choice. No matter who does what in a marriage, occasionally wearing the other’s shoes will help it last.

4 thoughts on “Putting Yourself In Someone Else’s Shoes

  1. And that’s the way it’s supposed to work, sharing tasks and picking up the slack when the other isn’t mobile. Good husband 🙂

  2. I hope your wife’s recovery goes well John – over a month now. i must say some things are a bit gender specific to me – eg like changing a tyre. My husband now enjoys cooking and is fairly creative and overly proud of himself when he produces something!
    Great post thank you – I love the idea of wearing another’s shoes, and walking in them

    1. Thanks for the comment, Susan. Yes, there’s gender-specific and then there’s personal choices. LOL. But it’s worthwhile to try other things to raise the appreciation level. 🙂

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